I am a psychotherapist and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT) in private practice in Santa Rosa, California. I provide individual and couples counseling and psychotherapy services to individuals, families and couples who are looking to create better and more satisfying relationships and who want to feel more alive and at peace in their life.
My Counseling Approach
My therapeutic approach to counseling and therapy is integrative. What that means is that I integrate elements of a number of theoretical orientations, depending on who I am working with and what the particular client's needs are. My counseling work draws from client centered, narrative, humanistic, experiential, post modern feminist, psychodynamic and social constructionsist orientations. My stance is non-pathologizing. Additionally, I view relationships through the lens of attachment theory which especially informs my work with couples. I also incorporate mindfulness into most of my counseling and therapy with clients. I believe you will find me to be intelligent, attentive, authentic, collaborative and straightforward.
Whether with couples, individuals or a family, often our work in therapy is aimed at helping you to be present for and aware of your feelings. We also may explore some of your underlying beliefs and values. Other times we will consider your past experiences and the impact they have on your present situation. And while there is value in looking at the past, simply digging around is generally not helpful. Your history has a way of following you to the present and showing us where to look. Through our work together, my aim is to be fully present and to hold a safe space for the range of your feelings and thoughts, making way for the emergence of new and more satisfying ways of living.
"People do not come into therapy to change their past but their future." - Milton Erikson
As with most adventures, my journey to this work was not a straight line. I remember as far back as high school thinking that I wanted to be a therapist but my real-life journey took many roads with turns and twists and detours along the way. I have come to value the notion that a straight line is often not the optimal path.
I earned a Bachelor of Science in Business Administration, and later a Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology. My first degree speaks to my 20 year career as an entrepreneur and businesswoman. I enjoyed my career in business and in many ways it prepared me for this work. At the same time, I wanted to be doing work that felt deeply connected to my values. Eventually I realized that working with people, and with their most challenging and personal issues, helping them ask and arrive at answers to their Big Questions offered me authentic, meaningful and deeply rewarding work.
My experiences in business and throughout my life have taught me and prepared me to be here now doing this work with heart, skills and wisdom. For as long as I can remember, I have been keenly interested in understanding people, our behaviors, thoughts, feelings, how our past influences our present, what makes us who we are and so on. My curiosity has always driven me to ask questions and to wonder. I also have learned from traveling and relating to many different kinds of people both in the U.S. and abroad. I continue to enjoy exploring a broad range of topics such as relationships, health, spirituality, science, nature, culture, art, the human condition and so much more. Like many of you, I am a multi-faceted human being.
Happily, this is the work I am called to do. I enjoy it in a way that is difficult to put to words. It is an honor and a privilege to join you on your personal journey, no matter how long or short our time together. I have deep respect for the courage it takes to heal, to grow and to live.
"Beyond her scholarly and professional skills, Erin is an amazing person - thoughtful, serious, humorous, sensitive, wise, humble and so dedicated to helping others that she inspires us all." - Mark Doolittle, Ph. D., Professor Emeritus, Sonoma State University, MA Counseling Psychology Program, Founder SOS Community Counseling Services.
Special Training and Ongoing Learning
Vancouver School for Narrative Therapy - San Francisco
Each three day intensive below was led by accomplished and respected therapists and thought leaders in the field of narrrative therapy: Stephen Madigan Ph. D, Jeffrey Zimmerman Ph. D, David Nylund Ph. D
November 2012 - Level I Narrative Therapy Training Intensive
November 2013 - Level II Narrataive Therapy Training Intensive
EFT Couples Therapy - Emotion Focused Therapy
November 2015 - Externship in Emotion Focused Therapy - The International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therpy in Conjunction with TRI EFT Alliant University conducts four-day intensive externships training therapists in EFT, which was conceptualized and developed by Dr. Sue Johnson. This externship was led by renowned EFT couples therapist and trainers Rebecca Jorgensen, Ph.D. and Mark Kaupp, Psy. D.
November 2016 - Externship in Emotion Focused Therapy - The International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therpy in Conjunction with the Los Angeles Center for EFT conducts four-day intensive externships training therapists in Emotion Focused Therapy, which was conceptualized and developed by Dr. Sue Johnson. This externship was led by Dr. Sue Johnson and Dr. Silvina Irwin, Ph.D.
I have done additional EFT training with Sue Johnson, the developer of EFT in a live-online training format as well as extensive self study of EFT. Although I combine ideas from other couples therapy leaders such as Daniel Wile and John Gottman, in my practice EFT is my home base. My work with couples and relationships is guided by a strong foundation in Emotion Focused Couples Therapy, EFT. I am a lifetime member of The International Center for Excellence in Emotion Focused Therapy, ICEEFT.
Gottman Method Couples Therapy
October 2012 - Level 1 Clinical Training - Gottman Method Couples Therapy: Bridging the Couple Chasm. This two-day training taught by Lisa Lund, MFT, focused on treatment for couples who struggle, using research-based assessments and effective interventions.
Collaborative Couple Therapy
In 2013 I began been participating in a monthly Collaborative Couple Therapy Consultation Group - Led and facilitated by renowned psychologist and couple therapist Daniel B. Wile.
"In Collaborative Couple Therapy, loss of voice is substituted for resistance as the key pathological element. Loss of voice precludes expression of heartfelt feelings – the partners’ underlying longings and fears. We take the fight that is occurring at the moment and, by discovering the partners’ heartfelt feelings, transform it into a moment of intimacy and induce a collaborative spirit. This turns the relationship into a curative force for solving the couple’s moment-to-moment relationship problems and each partner’s family-of-origin problems." - Daniel B. Wile
The Center for Healing Shame
I am happy to share that I have completed the process of becoming a Certified Healing Shame Practitioner. Shame is often at the core of being stuck and therefore of making progress in treatment. It is also not well understood by many counseling and other helping professionals. The Healing Shame workshop series teaches a powerful approach to understanding and working with shame, developed by Bret Lyon, Ph. D. and Sheila Rubin MA, MFT. With a firm foundation in attachment theory, Bret and Sheila synthesize aspects of emotion focused therapy, focusing, somatics, mindfulness and expressive arts therapy for a powerful and efficient clinical intervention for identifying and healing shame.
October 2016 - Two Day Workshop - Healing Shame Core Workshop
February 2017 - Two Day Workshop - Melting the Shame Freeze
April 2017 - Two Day Workshop - Healing Shame in Couples
June 2017 - Two Day Workshop - Advanced Shame Shifting
November 2017 - Two Day Workshop - Working with Shame in the Imaginal Realm
February 2018 -Two Day Workshop - Advanced Giving the Shame Back
March 2018 - Two Day Workshop - Sex and Shame
"Shame is perhaps the most painful of all emotions. It is at the root of both “the inner critic” and perfectionism. It binds with and hides behind other emotions, such as anger and fear, so that it is often hard to detect. Many people go to great lengths to avoid acknowledging or even feeling shame – and this gets in the way of making progress in treatment." - Bret Lyon & Sheila Rubin
Professional Membership Organizations