This past Friday, here in the Northern Hemisphere, the sun crossed the celestial equator making its way north along the ecliptic. This celestial event, otherwise known as the vernal or spring equinox, marks the beginning of Spring. I adore spring. It carries a hopeful promise of fresh and new, a delightful energy that we can join with as we go about our lives. For most of us there is something deeply satisfying and health promoting about moving in sync with the rhythm of the season. Maybe this is part of the reason "spring cleaning" is universal concept and ritual.

Many couples who first come into therapy are stuck in a cycle of conflict. They often feel disconnected with each other and in particular cannot seem to prevent or step out of the adversarial cycle that looms over them. Certain hot-button topics are in fact certain to invoke their negative cycle. So what is a couple to do when they find themselves stuck, spinning their wheels in the sand? The answer is get some traction.

People feel blue or feel down for many reasons. Sometimes beginning to feel better starts with a simple question and simple actions.  "What can I start doing today that would make me feel even a little bit better?" Sometimes this can be a more important question than trying to figure out "Why do I feel this way?"